The phrase: get your house in order does not literally mean clean it up.
~~~ start or continue communication with your spouse. It's used to relate to your relationship. In other words; clean up the relationship you have...
~ Put God first in your personal life and in your marriage
~ Have open communication
~ Don't get defensive with one another
~ Keep your voice tones low
~ Don't be condescending
~ Listen
~ Understand
~ Use "I feel" language
~ Fight fair
~ Spend time together
Just some of my thoughts...
Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts
July 24, 2009
July 20, 2009
marriage 101:
Choose your battles wisely... let it settle in...
Battles not just with your spouse but also with family and friends. Living in victory means that not everyone will like you.
Battles not just with your spouse but also with family and friends. Living in victory means that not everyone will like you.
"It is to one's honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel. "
Proverbs 20:3
June 15, 2009
Dude, Like Whatever!
Yesterday, we used the 52 Great Cheap Dates and my hubby picked Totally High School. We had to act like we where in HS all over again.
First, we had an impromptu double date after church, that was awesome! Like, what you would do if your best girlfriend and her boyfriend showed up at the restaurant. We ate, talked, laughed, and joked, etc. Since, J picked the card everything had to be a surprise, so after brunch. I was told to meet him at the movie theater. We saw The Taking of Pelham 123, a great movie! J walked me to my car, opened the door, and leaned in for a kiss. After the kiss he said, this is awesome! We have now completed the card, I got a first kiss all over again. Too cute!
Currently debating, if we should make the cards a weekly or monthly occurrence. Must say, the acting like in HS was great fun...
First, we had an impromptu double date after church, that was awesome! Like, what you would do if your best girlfriend and her boyfriend showed up at the restaurant. We ate, talked, laughed, and joked, etc. Since, J picked the card everything had to be a surprise, so after brunch. I was told to meet him at the movie theater. We saw The Taking of Pelham 123, a great movie! J walked me to my car, opened the door, and leaned in for a kiss. After the kiss he said, this is awesome! We have now completed the card, I got a first kiss all over again. Too cute!
Currently debating, if we should make the cards a weekly or monthly occurrence. Must say, the acting like in HS was great fun...
June 9, 2009
Young, Married, and on a Budget!
An amazing Barnes and Noble find... I was near the check out counter looking at the great quotable magnets they have and stumbled upon these cards by Lynn Gordon... 52 Great Cheap Dates. I was like a kid in a candy store when I saw this, my eyes got as big as a quarter and I had this cheesy smile on my face. James and I have been trying to find other things to do on date night besides the movies, dinner, 
bowling and the sunny day picnic.
I bought them only reading the front cover and the back. When I got home I opened the cellophane and read at least half of the cards with excitement. Noticing that some of them I had never even thought of or thinking it may be corney never brought it up in conversation as something to do... But it's funny how when you hear or read someone else doing it you automatically think its ok or cool.
On the front of each card is a cute drawing of the date and the back details the date. For example, All Aboard! has you and your spouse or significant other boarding a train and picking the destination spur of the moment. Only armed with a sweater and pinic for the train ride or when you arrive... Talk about being spontaneous...
Also in the 52 series is 52 Ways to Stay in Love Forever and 52 Really Romantic Dates. I havn't purchased these but I'm looking forward to these cards adding some extra fun... I'll update on the next date night and how it went with the use of the 52 series.
bowling and the sunny day picnic.I bought them only reading the front cover and the back. When I got home I opened the cellophane and read at least half of the cards with excitement. Noticing that some of them I had never even thought of or thinking it may be corney never brought it up in conversation as something to do... But it's funny how when you hear or read someone else doing it you automatically think its ok or cool.
On the front of each card is a cute drawing of the date and the back details the date. For example, All Aboard! has you and your spouse or significant other boarding a train and picking the destination spur of the moment. Only armed with a sweater and pinic for the train ride or when you arrive... Talk about being spontaneous...
Also in the 52 series is 52 Ways to Stay in Love Forever and 52 Really Romantic Dates. I havn't purchased these but I'm looking forward to these cards adding some extra fun... I'll update on the next date night and how it went with the use of the 52 series.
May 27, 2009
It's Like Algebra...
Talking with one of my BFF's last night I came to this realization.
I believe that this equates to a strong, understanding, not ever boastful version of marriage. You and your spouse or significant other have to come to some kind of understand on how you want your relationship to be and where you want it to go. This equation of sorts, is meant for the times when you need a little more than just love. What I mean by that is love is an emotion and we all know emotions can go up and down depending on our mood and sometimes they are not as strong as they were the day before. It's the commitment coupled with love and sometimes over love that brings you through the bumpy patches in the roller coaster ride.
You can have all the love in the world but with out commitment you have nothing.
commitment
--------------- = marriage
love
I believe that this equates to a strong, understanding, not ever boastful version of marriage. You and your spouse or significant other have to come to some kind of understand on how you want your relationship to be and where you want it to go. This equation of sorts, is meant for the times when you need a little more than just love. What I mean by that is love is an emotion and we all know emotions can go up and down depending on our mood and sometimes they are not as strong as they were the day before. It's the commitment coupled with love and sometimes over love that brings you through the bumpy patches in the roller coaster ride.
You can have all the love in the world but with out commitment you have nothing.
May 26, 2009
marriage 101:
A praying woman...
In any relationship someone needs to be grounded at all times. Our spouses tend to think they are the grounded ones because they don't shop as often or wear their emotions on their sleeves. Being grounded has nothing to do with the physical, emotional or mental sense of the word. It has everything to do with the fact that the woman, whether she wants to be or not, is the backbone of the family from the moment she says 'I do'. Yes! this is a large role to partake in but with faith and prayer anything is possible. Instead of praying for your needs, you find yourself praying for the needs of those in your family and asking for the strength to be able to provide them. I was told recently, that being a wife requires a lot of prayer, fasting, and patients. I believe this 100%. If your a wife, or in a committed a relationship toward the aisle you know what I mean.
The Serenity Prayer ~~
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him Forever in the next. Amen.
--Reinhold Niebuhr
In any relationship someone needs to be grounded at all times. Our spouses tend to think they are the grounded ones because they don't shop as often or wear their emotions on their sleeves. Being grounded has nothing to do with the physical, emotional or mental sense of the word. It has everything to do with the fact that the woman, whether she wants to be or not, is the backbone of the family from the moment she says 'I do'. Yes! this is a large role to partake in but with faith and prayer anything is possible. Instead of praying for your needs, you find yourself praying for the needs of those in your family and asking for the strength to be able to provide them. I was told recently, that being a wife requires a lot of prayer, fasting, and patients. I believe this 100%. If your a wife, or in a committed a relationship toward the aisle you know what I mean.
The Serenity Prayer ~~
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him Forever in the next. Amen.
--Reinhold Niebuhr
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